Are we in denial about infidelity?
According to American psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum, “people who have affairs are not ‘cheaters’ or ‘low-slung nymphomaniacs trying to get away with something', they are simply good people who have made a mistake". And she also suggests that an affair can save – and possibly improve - a marriage. Her views were vilified in the British press recently when she published her latest self-help tome – When Good People Have Affairs. But why are we so shocked by what she says? 40% of us have affairs, so are we perhaps indulging in a case of good old British double standards? Jenni discusses Mira's ideas with agony aunt Anna Raeburn and relationship counsellor Carol Martin-Sperry BACP. |
